Blondes are Out; Brunettes are In

While doing some research for an upcoming blog article I came across this British study that said out of the 2000 men polled by Badoo, 60% of men preferred dark haired women to light haired women.  Although this study was unscientific I did enjoy hearing it. I've heard since I was young that men prefer blondes, in general.  I also know that a lot of women bleach and highlight their hair to get it even more blonde.  Well, nothing profound here on my end, just got a smile out of it...Go Brunettes!

Homemade Laundry Soap: Not Just for Hippies Anymore

Okay, so I honestly don't know if hippies make their own laundry soap.  There are many motivations to making your own soap; allergies, concerns about toxins or other chemicals, and economical.  I decided to try making our own laundry soap just to save money with our large family.  I figured that since we are Christians, politically conservative, pro-life, pro-gun, and homeschool our kids that we're already considered freaks so why not let the freak flag fly proudly and start making our own laundry soap!  I know other families that make their own soap too and they're not nearly as weird as we are if that gives any comfort.  It's really easy to make and you'll save about 89% in costs.

This website was great, has step-by-step instructions with pictures and a great cost break down.  The man who  originally posted the recipe tested his soap against Tide and said it worked just as well.  You can use any kind of bar soap you want and add scented oils or not.  You can also make a dry method although I use the gel/wet.  I think it works great, the only thing I miss is that perfumey, artificial smell that you get from Tide with Downy.  I know, some may be disgusted by that but I like that "illusion of cleanliness" smell.

http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/04/09/making-your-own-laundry-detergent-a-detailed-visual-guide/

I still use store bought laundry sheets for the dryer. However, I've heard that you can take a bottle of liquid fabric softener, add 2 gallons of water to it in a bucket, dip a sponge in the bucket and throw the sponge in with the clothes.  If you line-dry your clothes I would still add some fabric softener into the washer.  I personally don't like crunchy clothes.

Anyways, I just thought I'd share.  I know making your own laundry soap is not a new idea, in fact it's an old one but it's coming back in popularity.  I'm also going to try making our own dishwasher soap, I'll let everyone know how that goes!  Good luck if you decide to try and make your own soap and don't worry, you don't need to wear Birkenstocks while making it!

Competitiveness & Aggression in Women

Reader Warning:  Due to the statistical nature of this post it reads a little dry.  Sorry, I'll try to be more clever next time.  Happy Reading!  : )

Whether it’s elementary school girls talking about who has cooties, high school girls criticizing what another girl wore to school on a certain day, or the shock that your neighbor allows her kids to engage in certain behaviors; let’s face it, women like to gossip.  The Social Issues Research Center says that gossip accounts for 67% of women’s conversations.  In general women talk about other people to feel close to one another as they discuss others and validate each other.  I think women also get some sense of power and/or superiority through gossip.  I believe women are competitive and aggressive in their own rite and this is one way they express it.  This is not just for adult females either; gossip and bullying begins with very young girls.  Words can hurt; I think we’ve all experienced that growing up and even in our adult life.  There is now cyberbullying and even a new term; bullycide which is a suicide as a result of bullying.  

Obviously, bullying of any kind (gossip, teasing, exclusion and pranks), whether at school or work is happening and has horrible consequences; suicide being the most extreme of them.  As cited on bullyingstatistics.org, “New bullying statistics 2010 are reporting that there is a strong connection between bullying, being bullied and suicide, according to a new study from the Yale School of Medicine. Suicide rates are continuing to grow among adolescents, and have grown more than 50 percent in the past 30 years. “ 

Besides words, bullying can be any form of physical violence as well, such as pushing, hitting, and even gang-style beatings.  Here are just a few statistics; it’s reported that there are about 282,000 students attacked each month, 56% of public school students have witnessed a bullying crime, and 1 in every 10 students drops out or changes schools due to bullying.  Here are some specific statistics about girls; every 7 minutes a girl is getting bullied, and when bullying does occur, 85% of the time no one intervenes. 

The number of female juvenile arrests doubled between 1989 and 1993.  Female juvenile arrests for violent crimes specifically increased 55% for that same time period.  Between 1999 and 2003, aggravated assault arrest statistics decreased by 17% for girls but simple assault increased by 12%.

I don’t think that bullying stops with kids and teenagers.  In fact, I would argue that in some cases, bullying may escalate and evolve as these girls and teenagers age.  I think the statistics for women being arrested supports my position.  The FBI reported in 2007 that, “… 2.4 million women were arrested in 2006, accounting for nearly a quarter of all arrests in the U.S. Nationwide, the number of women arrested increased by 4% from 1997 to 2006. During the same ten-year period, the number of men arrested decreased by 7.1%.”  So, basically, bullying, juvenile arrest rates, and adult female arrest rates are increasing.  Specifically, the arrest rate for simple assault is increasing among females.

I don’t think it’s a hard sell to convince readers that violence among females is rising; if you want to get more depressed or freaked out as a parent you can always do a YouTube search and watch videos of teenage girls gang-beating other girls on film.  Pretty sick.  However, there are some good and even more important statistics to keep in mind; after school activities in the community, sports, parental involvement, and church help keep kids out of trouble.  “Involvement in church and nonschool activities, for both young men and women, significantly protected them from serious delinquent behavior, which includes fighting, carrying a weapon or violence. However, it did not protect them from risky behavior, such as drinking, smoking or drunk driving.”

This is true for both boy and girls but what more recent studies have shown that sports have more of an impact on girls than boys.  “While it was previously believed that participation in sports would decrease delinquency in boys, it actually did not have a significant protective effect. However, the reverse was true for girls, “whose risk for delinquent behavior was reduced significantly if they took part in sports.”    

Simply put, girls who have involved parents, participate in activities outside of school; specifically sports, are less violent and don’t participate in risky behavior.   Isn’t this what every parent would want for his/her daughters?  A question I wondered about that none of the research specifically addressed was why?  Why do sports help girls be less violent?  Well, I think the answer is pretty obvious; they are just as competitive and aggressive as ever, but they vent their competitiveness and aggression in a healthy way.  Being competitive is not a bad thing by itself.  Neither is aggression.  It’s just how you choose to use and vent that competitiveness and aggression. 

I wish I had hard research to say that Crossfit specifically is a superior outlet for girls and women over other sports – maybe somebody should conduct those studies – but it’s definitely in the category of a competitive sport.  It’s just further evidence that Crossfit doesn’t just benefit the physical, but mental and even behavioral issues as well.  I even find Crossfit therapeutic; I can’t possibly think about my cruddy day when all I can focus on is the workout at hand.  When my body is screaming for every attention my brain can fathom, I forget about everything else.  Oddly, it is relaxing and afterwards, I’m all unwound. 

I openly admit I am biased to Crossfit because I do see it as a superior sport.  I think this is because Crossfit focuses on performance, not appearance and addresses all 10 components of fitness compared to other sports.  Crossfit also simply gets results, period.  Now however, I would add that it’s possible that Crossfit makes women nicer since it’s an extremely healthy way to express competitiveness and aggression.  There's got to be a clever Crossfit slogan somewhere in there!  

Equinox: the Anti-Gym

We all know that “losing weight” is the most popular New Year’s Resolution.  Of course, 60% of gym memberships go unused, according to Time Magazine (revenue with no work!).  At any rate, January is the time to see gym rate deals, books on diet and exercise, infomercials, and discounts on home gym equipment.  I get it, businesses are simply trying to make money and they see an opportunity after we’ve all eaten too much and been lazy too many days over the holidays. 

I’m sure you’ve seen these commercials with before and after pictures; claiming they lost all their weight with some wondrous diet pills.  I’ve seen ads for shake diets, Charles Barkley who is the new spokesman for Weight Watchers, and even clothing apparatuses that somehow take inches off of your body while in use.  I find a lot of these products laughable, and sometimes the commercials are good sources of unintentional comedic relief, but companies wouldn’t spend thousands of dollars on advertising them if the advertisements didn’t work.  On the other hand, some of these companies have invested in good marketing teams and have very tempting campaigns, such as the Bowflex TreadClimber. 

We, the consumers, judge and validate these marketing campaigns by how we choose to spend our money.  Though the gym or equipment that speaks to us is totally different for each person, I’ve noticed that there are some common themes.  For one, you’ll never see fat people using the equipment unless it’s a “before” shot.  Secondly, the people modeling the equipment look like they’re having so much fun they can’t contain themselves.  Three, most of the models look like they don’t use the equipment; the females usually have no muscle tone and the men look like they needed steroids to get their results. 

Well, one gym this year based out of New York has taken their marketing to a whole new level.  Equinox Gym's New Year’s marketing shows pictures of extremely skinny models doing out of the gym activities.  Here are just two of their advertisements.

I am happy to say that there has been a negative response to these ads.  Equinox’s Facebook account was flooded with complaints from their customers saying that their models look unhealthy and anorexic.  Equinox and the fashion designer photographer, Terry Richardson, are also getting all kinds of criticism from the general public.  ABC even published a very short article for which “Neither Terry Richardson nor Equinox returned requests from ABC News for comment.” 

However, not all Equinox clients were unhappy and were even defending the ads. 

According to Susanna Kim’s ABC piece, 

“The people who complain, have missed the point … and the message it is meant to convey,” an Equinox member wrote in defense of the ads. “The selection of models and the images show Equinox as high fashion, cool, hip and edgy.”

Sweat Angel

Seriously, that’s what some people want in a gym?!?  “[H]igh fashion, cool, hip and edgy”?  Give me a break!  This is my definition of the anti-gym.  The complete opposite of what I’m looking for.  Either the person who made this statement doesn’t understand the point of marketing, or Equinox itself doesn’t understand the point of a gym.  Or maybe Equinox is simply catering to what the people want and making the ads and their gym all about appearance.  This is what really bothers me.  I’m glad even their own clients are complaining that the women in the ads are too thin and look hungry, but I’m also annoyed that the ads are focusing on appearance - yet again - and not performance. 

I want to see ads that show normal people really doing the prescribed workouts.  I want to see muscle and sweat.  I don’t go to the gym for the atmosphere or to be hip.  I go to challenge myself and to work hard.  I want to see sweat-angels, red-faces, and even an occasional hand-tear from pull-ups.

When I go to the gym I want to hear heavy breathing, grunts and moans, weights clanking, and frankly maybe a cuss word here and there.

With Crossfit you not only experience all of these things but also occasional inspirational yelling from a coach, encouragement and correction from trainers, and cheers from fellow athletes.  And guess what?  Most of us don’t wear make-up, have cute matching outfits or chew gum, read fashion magazines, or anything else that would qualify as fashionable, hip, or edgy.  We work our butts off and get results that are objectively measurable in weight (lifted, not on the bathroom scale), distance, time and repetitions completed. 

So to Equinox, fashion photographer Terry Richardson, and anyone who supports Equinox’s new ad campaign here’s a big, bitter “screw you” and a welcome invitation to any of their current clients to say the same by joining a Crossfit gym and getting some real, measurable results.